Fatherhood: Perseverance Retreat

So each year my daughter and wife will go skiing with the in-laws, leaving me and the triplet boys to our devices (or devastation).  In 2014, I began to take them on a boys weekend in order to instill the Barry Family Code.

Rainbow Falls
Rainbow Falls

I have discovered that our community has done a terrible job of values-based parenting.  Most parents are reactive, and parenting from the hip.  We have moved from a culture of “can I?” (external restraints) to “should I?” (internal values).  It is no longer “can I afford a video game system, but should I?” For our boys it will no longer be “can I get access to a playboy magazine, but should I access the plethora of pornography on the internet.”

Therefore, I have started to build in values based parenting to our boys.

To be a Barry means that you have Integrity, Perseverance and Confident Humility.

As a result, we have started our annual trips to build on these themes, and this past month we tackled Perseverance.

Curious what our weekend looked like?

Day 1

Morning Workout

  • Turkish Getup
  • Stair Runs
  • Decline Pushups
  • Squat Jumps
  • Burpees
  • Pushups
  • Jump Lunges
  • Russian Twists
  • Diamond Pushups
  • Broad Jumps
  • Manmaker Pushups
  • Handrelease Burpees


    1-on-1 with Jack

Double Decker game of War

    1-on-1 with James

Living Water

  • Waterbottle
  • John 4:14—”Whoever drinks the water I gave him will never thirst.”

EPIC Scavenger Hunt Game: Smores

  • Clue 1:  Where dirty boys get clean
  • Clue 2:  Watch Your Step
  • Clue 3:  Where you sleep with your head up high and your brother below
  • Clue 4:  How the Dude and Papa tell time
    1-on-1 with Thomas

Movie Time:  StarWars

Day 2


  • 1 Pushup & 2 Air presses up to 10/20
  • 11s Dips and Squats
  • 10 Fire to Fire Laps

Word Presentation

  • Jack: Helpful
  • James: Sportmanship
  • Thomas: Respect

Perseverance Experienced: Rainbow Falls Hike

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