Sometimes the next step is obvious. The door opens. The opportunity comes. The path begins to align. And yet, we hesitate. Sometimes we keep asking God for more clarity when what we really need is the courage to take the next faithful step.

But not every decision is obvious. Some crossroads require deeper discernment. When the path ahead is unclear, we need to pay attention not only to the decision in front of us, but also to what is happening within us.

What is the condition of my soul as I make this decision?

Followers of Jesus throughout history have described two different spiritual conditions: consolation and desolation.

Spiritual consolation is a season when our hearts are being drawn toward God. We experience growing faith, hope, love, gratitude, humility, and trust. Life may still be difficult, but even in the difficulty, we find ourselves moving closer to God.

Spiritual desolation moves in the opposite direction. Fear, resentment, anxiety, isolation, exhaustion, or the need for control begins driving us. Difficult circumstances start pulling us away from trust in God.

This matters because the condition of our souls can affect the way we see the road ahead.

When we are exhausted, the easy way out looks appealing. When we are afraid, more control can look like wisdom. When we are restless, something new can look better.

So before making a significant decision, ask a deeper question: How is my soul?

If you are experiencing consolation, test what you are sensing against Scripture and wise counsel, then move forward with prayerful confidence.

If you are experiencing desolation, and you have the freedom to wait, do so. Repent. Rest. Pray. Seek counsel. Give your soul time to heal and become quiet before God.

Sometimes discernment begins not by staring harder at the choices, but by allowing God to clarify what is happening within our hearts.

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All of this material is consolidated into this book Standing at a Crossroads. It could be read in one 30 minute sitting, thoughtfully worked through during a weekend retreat, or shared with others in a weekly bible study.